I am not sure if this is the right place to come to but how do you get the media to do a story about your children being abused by their mother, their step father, his family and her friends? My children have been being abused now since we had separated in may of 01. She has committed welfare fraud..she had been on food stamps and TANIF for her and the two children and she was using it to feed her friends Alberta, Roger, Kimberly, Philip and Billy...her new husband and my children got to eat peanut butter and jelly or went without.
She sent them begging for food, cigs, money etc..from people in the apt. complex. There was drugs going on and my ex took the kids to hotels with Alberta ( who lost all 4 of her kids to dfs for this same type of behavior ) and my children were made to sit in the bathroom while her and Alberta engaged in sex with men from the bars and a man would come the children don't know and they would have to sit in the bathroom for long times while he was there, they don't know what he was doing there or who he was.
There was a knife fight literally above my children when the adults were drunk and my brother took the knife away from the guy who had cut someone and my brother had blood on his shirt from it. He called me and I called the cops and he did too and it took them 3 hours to get there and by then everyone was passed out. They had all been drunk that night. We called in a hotline and they sent a worker to investigate but called her in advance so she could clean up the house and have everyone go somewhere else.
The kids told the worker Melissa Whisenand that they were being sent around for food and cigs and stuff but told the worker it was Alberta making them do it, it was all of the adults. I asked the kids why they didn't tell the worker the whole thing and they said that there mom was present and they were told by her if they told the truth then they would be arrested for begging door to door.
Alberta choked my son on one occasion for making noise while he played and he was threatened by her several times and she hit him. Billy and Kayela made Chelsea my 9 yr old daughter kiss this 7 year old boy named Kieth Jr. she didn't want to do it but Billy told her he would give her 35.00 and take her to 6 Flags if she did it and she still didn't want to and he made her and on one occasion they took a video tape of it. She said it made her feel sick to her tummy and she was very down when she finally told us about this incident.
My ex was evicted for not paying 4.00 a month rent, living conditions, and all the people she had there living that were not supposed to be there. She had been warned several times by the apt. manager to get rid of them and get her act together. She was evicted. She also lost her phone and her electric for non payment. She was spending the money on those people for cigs and she bought one a set of swords and the other a pair of 60.00 boots and bought 400.00 worth of alcohol to have a party and then didn't have money for gas and stuff like that and wanted to borrow money from people in the complex.
We called DFS about all of this and they every time would call her and tell her they were coming, they unfounded all of it, they told me if I called again they would have me arrested for harassment.
I tried my hardest to keep in contact with my children but she moved 7 times in one month because she would get kicked out for not paying her share of the rent or not taking care of the kids etc..having them out all hours of the night.
She sent my son to my mom's in peed clothes he had on so long that he had blisters on his genitals and Billy said that it was a lesson for wetting the bed!
My son has tried to commit suicide since he has been there and threatens it. He is ADHD and is supposed to be on Remeron which she hasn't filled since Dec 02.
There were allegations that I was going to kidnap the kids and this was before we were divorced and no custody was even established and I never said I was going to kidnap them. Melissa Whisenand said that the principal told her I called all the time complaining about my ex and that I escalated in anger with her.
I asked the principal why she said that because I never got nasty with the woman and she had me fax the paper to her, which I did and she said she never said it and if we went to court then she wanted to be on that stand because she never said it and she was mad that the worker put it in there.
My kids finally got to see me for the first time in 2 years last week. My son came with a sore on his head that is 7cm in diameter. Kayela ..my ex said the school said it was ringworm and gave her Desenex for it. The school said it was not true. They did have ringworm but it should have been cleared up by now.
Brandon says he has had it since before Easter. He said his mom got desenex from wal mart, kayela had changed her story also and said she got it from her mom too. She never took him to the doc. till two days before he was to come here, they gave her keflex for his cough and Bactroban ointment for the scalp which is like neosporin but just prescription form and Gris Peg which she didn't fill because she said she couldn't afford it but he is on medical and it's free.
They do not pay for the pills but they do the liquid, she could have asked for the change and they would have done it. They also took a biopsy she was to get results of in 1 to 2 days and never did that the whole time we had the kids a week and a half.
By the time he got here it was so infected that it was draining blood, pus, that was green and yellow. We did the ointment for the 3 to 5 days like it said and nothing. We can't take him to the doc according to the parenting plan because it says we have to have her permission or we can be in contempt of court for disobeying it. We talked to Kayela on the phone and she didn't want us to take him she threw a fit. The next day Brandon was in pain on his head and it was bad looking. I e-mailed Kayela and told her I was taking him to the doctor and I didn't care what she said. So we did.
The doc first looking at him squeezed it and it was so terrible, then there was an ER call and we had to wait for a while and I got recruited for multiple gunshot emergency since I am a fire fighter and they were understaffed for such a problem.
The next doc was a lady and her name was Melissa Bell. She said it was ringworm, had been there for 2 to 3 months untreated and put him on Gris Peg and told us to call DHS here in Iowa because it was flat out neglect.
We got the meds filled and he has to have liver function tests every two weeks now because of how bad the infection is and how strong the meds are.
The DHS worker came here ( we are in iowa, the kids reside in Missouri ) from Iowa and she read over all the paperwork from the DFS down there and asked why they hadn't removed the kids. We told her we didn't know why, we wonder the same thing every day. She said they did not do their jobs down there and this was definite neglect and so was the other stuff going on in the past.
She looked at Brandon's head and she made notes and Brandon told her he hadn't gone to the doc until the 11th of June etc..he told her how filthy the house was and about the roaches and other bugs there and the snakes and rats in the basement.
When the kids got here and Chelsea dumped out her bag, there were roaches in it. I kept one and put it in a baggie and she also had head lice really bad and Brandon said they gave him a buzz cut because he had head lice.
The DHS worker told us she would make a report and she was going to talk to Missouri as well and see if they are going to cooperate. She said it was Missouri's jurisdiction and Missouri says it is Iowa's.
Either way..who cares? The children are being abused badly.
My son asked my fiancé Jen if she believed in God while he was up here for his visit. Jen not knowing where this was leading told him people believe in different things and wasn't for sure which one was actually accurate but that she supposed it was what faith you were and what you believed in.
She asked why he had asked and Brandon told her: "Because I believe in God and I think there is a Heaven and I want to go there because it is perfect there and I won't get hit anymore and that's why I try to kill myself."
Jen didn't know what to say so she told him well..yes it is perfect but most religions that believe in God tell you that suicide will prevent you from getting into heaven and that we would all sure miss him a lot if he weren't around anymore and we would be very sad and we would cry a lot. What do you say to something like that?
We took in the video tape of the house that Billy, Kayela and the kids are moving into. It is a garbage dump..literally. There are boards and debris and cinderblocks and metal pieces, oil drum, huge wad of plastic, a wagon thing with trash in it, trash all over the yard, the roof is caving in, the windows are boarded up etc..you get the idea. We have it on video. DFS down there said they went there and the house looked fine. ????!!!???? Jen about came unglued.
Again, it was that Melissa Whisenand. The dfs worker Tara down there is the one who told us to call the hotline again after we took her the pics and things. A lot of good it did. Kayela is supposed to be on meds for depression herself. She used to threaten suicide all the time and I tried to stick it out with her. I dealt with it for 8 years and she would not get help and when she asked Jen to live with us, Jen talked her into getting help and she did and it was getting better and then one night she flushed her meds and went on a tangent about how she was going to kill herself and got the kids all upset.
The thing is, she was doing it for attention, it wasn't a real threat. Jen finally got me to see that when she wasn't getting her way she did this and the more I watched, the more I seen it. She did it with her parents over clothes she wanted them to buy her! I couldn't take it anymore. I was so afraid of coming home and finding her dead in bed or leaving the kids alone at home and going and doing it somewhere else ..you just can't imagine how scared I was.
DFS says that I am doing this because I don't want to pay the child support. Well..when Kayela and I were together I was the one working 2 jobs to keep her happy in her shopping sprees. Jen set her up a job and she wouldn't even go to the interview after she begged Jen to get it for her. Jen stayed with us to help us with our bills after I lost my one job because her mom kept calling my work telling them I was going to leave her daughter and wanting them to do something about it.
I then lost my other job because the city did cuts and I was a fire fighter and I got knocked down to 6 hours per month! We had no income and Jen worked and Kayela asked Jen to move in to help with bills. Jen paid our credit card payments so we didn't get behind, our electric, water, food, bought our kids clothes, took us out so we wouldn't get sick of being home, paid for our gas, paid to get our car fixed, She paid it all and not once ever asked anything in return from either of us.
How did Kayela repay her? She told DFS that Jen was mean to the kids and that the kids were scared of her and she accused Jen of molesting our son and then denied saying it when that is also in the DFS papers and Brandon said it never happened that Jen gave him a bath once and he was embarrassed that was all.
Later, recently..kayela told Jen she did that because she was afraid that I was going to kidnap the kids! Jen could have gone to jail about it or prison for no reason! They never bothered to ask us though about it. I want someone to listen to this and I am not sure who to get to listen to this.
My kids are suffering. I live in a new..brand new home. I make a good wage with Pinkerton Security, Jen had a day care business and was licensed by the state of Iowa for a while but she dropped it because she wanted to focus on school ( she attends Vatterott online for programming ) and because of the trips back and forth to Missouri for the kids visitation with us, court hearings etc.
What do we do? I am afraid Brandon is going to commit suicide in the meantime. Why do these people not listen? If you can direct us on what we should do..I would appreciate any advice out there. I have an attorney but this is a slow process and the judge is not being very cooperative and we have a guardian ad litem now for the kids, but I don't know how long that is going to take either.
I am enclosing a pic of Brandon's sore on his head. I am sending you three. [Second picture of sore] One with me in it so you can see this is not something I got just off the net or something...this is what DFS down there just passes off.
Thank you for your time.
Sincerely yours,
Ronald Murray Jr. 641-524-2784 fax/phone.
